It’s coming up to Christmas and for some people it isn’t all sleigh bells and laughter. For some, this seasonal time of the year brings sadness. It's an unfortunate truth that negativity impacts our life more than anything else. This is because it arrives highly charged with various other emotions pushing it along.
Negativity brings anger, despair, grief and more, which wipes out any positivity that might be trying to break through. The damaging effect from this type of emotion ripples out like that of a lake that you have thrown a pebble into. It affects everyone around you. The mind is a powerful tool, but when it turns against you it can become a formidable adversary.
So how can you change this darkness around you? Do something that lightens your mood. I know you won’t feel like it, and I'm not trying to sound patronising here, but even something small can make a huge impact on how you're feeling. This way you are turning your mind away from the negative influences of your thoughts. Try not to speak to people who are in the same frame of mind as you. Negative people will only make you feel worse. For now, stick with people who are more upbeat.
Have you ever thought about helping others? Don’t be on your own Christmas day. A lot of charities are crying out for help. Crisis badly need volunteers christmas day. Help someone else, even if you feel that you can’t always help yourself.
It’s hard to feel thankful when you’re so down, but find one thing that you are really grateful for and concentrate on that. Don’t suffer alone. Talk to understanding friends and family about how you feel.
Understand that nobody is perfect. We all have flaws that from time to time hold us back or interfere in our lives. Mrs Jones, who lives next door, may have a wonderful house, but is she really happy? There are things that we say to ourselves that are harmful and stay locked inside us for a long time. Treat yourself as you would treat others. Think before you think!
Have a very merry Christmas and a joyous New year. xx Margaret West